1. Safety during an explosive incident

A. If an argument seems unavoidable, try to have it in a room or area that has access to an exit and not in the bathroom, kitchen or anywhere near weapons.

B. Practice how to get out of your home safely. Identify which doors, windows, elevator, or stairwell would be best.

C. Have a packed bag ready and keep it in an undisclosed but accessible place (with friend or relative) in order to leave quickly.

D. Identify a neighbor you can tell about the violence and ask that they call the police if they hear a disturbance coming from your home.

E. Devise a code word to use with your children, family, friends and neighbors when you need the police.

F. Decide and plan for where you will go if you have to leave home (even if you don't think you will need to).

G. Use your own instincts and judgement. If the situation is very dangerous, consider giving the abuser what he wants to calm him down. You have the right to protect yourself until you are out of danger.


2. Safety when preparing to leave

A. Open a savings account in your own name to establish or increase your independence. Think of other ways in which you can increase your independence.

B. Leave money, an extra set of keys, copies of important documents and extra clothes with someone you trust so you can leave quickly.

C. Determine who would be able to let you stay with them or lend you money.

D. Keep the shelter phone number close at hand.  409-832-7575 or 1-800-621-8882

3. Safety in your own home

A. Change the locks on your doors as soon as possible. Buy additional locks and safety devices to secure your windows.

B. Discuss a safety plan with your children for when you are not with them.

C. Inform your children's school, day care, etc.., about who has permission to pick up your children.

D. Inform neighbors and landlord that your partner no longer lives with you and that they should call the police if they see him near your home.

E. Call 911 immediately if your batterer shows up at your home and ask police to issue a Criminal Trespass Warning.

4. Safety with a Protective Order

A. Keep a copy of your protective order with you at all times.

B. Call the police if your partner violates the protective order.

C. Inform family, friends, neighbors that you have a protective order in effect.

5. Safety on the job and in public

A. Decide who at work you will inform of your situation. This should include office or building security.   Provide a picture of your batterer, if possible.

B. Arrange to have someone screen your telephone calls.

C. Devise a safety plan for when you leave work. Have someone escort you to your car.

6. Your safety and emotional health

A. If you have to communicate with your partner, determine the safest way to do so.

B. Have positive thoughts about yourself and be assertive with others about your needs.

C. Read books, articles, and poems to help you feel stronger.

D. Decide who you can call to talk freely and openly to give you the support you need.

E. Plan to attend a women's or victim's support group to gain support from others and learn more about yourself and the relationship.

7. If you are a teen in a violent dating relationship

A. Decide which friend, teacher, relative, or police officer you can tell.

B. Contact an advocate at the court to decide how to obtain a restraining order and make a safety plan.


Domestic Violence Safety Plan